What many people do not understand about online life coaching is that one of our main objectives is to help our clients become more self disciplined. Without it, it is nearly impossible to help people accomplish their goals. I truly believe that to experience success in life, you must be willing to cultivate a level of self discipline that will help you become more stable.
Firstly is the lesson of discipline; it makes or breaks a leader. When I first came to West Point, I had a shallow child’s understanding of discipline, yet as we had to work together, listen to nonsensical orders, and memorize seemingly useless facts I began to have a better grasp on the definition of discipline. Discipline-the ability to ignore one’s own desire in replace of what is needed. There are many types but I believe there were two main ones taught: physical and moral discipline. Physical discipline is the simple concept of pushing forward; actually listening to the brief instead of zoning out, dying internally at the CFA, or standing at formation while Sgt. Lynch eyeballs our poor squad form. So basically, physical discipline consists of not being a little bitch and doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done. This applies to the small and large, giving everything the attention and work it deserves. For example, note taking at briefs are just as important as cleaning your room because attention to detail even when you don’t want to is what stops tiny little mistakes in combat that get people killed. Then there’s moral discipline; having the tenacity to hold an objective take on wrong and right. We see in this in the cadet honor code, a list of do-nots. Then there’s the less obvious-the peer accountability; not cheating during class or peek ahead at LRC, an unwritten culture evident in even the rogue Sgt. Neville. Simply put, moral discipline Is holding yourself to a degree not subjective those around you. Sorta like a buoy in the ocean, when you remain steadfast in your thoughts and actions, you become an anchor to those around you. If a leader (or anyone for that matter) is not morally steadfast, he cannot inspire trust in those around him/her. I think we all know someone who is so moral (not prudish), that we cannot but help to be drawn toward them. I’ll go into more detail of how we achieve this but I’ll leave this at a mere definition for now. I’ve said all these types of disciplines are important but I’ve never really elaborated upon why they relate to the life of an army officer. As an army officer, you are responsible for serving as a moral compass to those around you and thus you yourself need to be morally stable. When you’re in a combat zone, your men will look to you for guidance and if you don’t practice discipline daily, how can you expect to on the battlefield. Secondly, as an officer, you’ll have to make decision with real consequences and therefore need an excellent understanding of right and wrong when you’re in those morally gray areas. This is why having a life coach is crucial because they can help you develop these skills. Some of the things being said here are false or at the very least inaccurate because they are predicated on the assumption that there is one monolithic definition of the idea of "Success" and that anything worth pursuing necessarily requires ambition. Presuppositions like "the world is against you" are based on what? Why would the world be against you and by who's criteria to we determine this? Who's dreams are we chasing anyway and who is to say that it all has to be painful and arduous or only be of value if you are the best at it? Furthermore not everything you might enjoy doing necessarily is expressed in areas that are competitive. Just a rehash of the usual feel-good "I made it because I tried harder than you" motivational clichés. Furthermore let us not forget the great intangible known as "Good Luck" without which not much can happen even if you are loaded with talent and perseverance. Why the hell does he say do not feel your feelings? I personally have been through a shit ton of battles in life and well of course in my mind.Yet to me it feels like when I ignore my feelings and not dissect them in hopes to understand my bodies automatic system it destroys me more then anything else in this world. Now I won't lie technically I just found this out and I almost killed myself due to the fact of me not listening to what it was saying. Not that it isn't lying. Yes it can be very well lying but if I don't see that lie for what it is I feel more destructive towards my thoughts.For example: The body has like these weird ways of protecting you and if your not accepted or the wrong word is said and make a you feel crappy at a young age it will set it to your default system and you will act according to how your body takes it the next time around. I guess my question is am I actually doing it wrong because feels right but also I am new to this. Been through so much lies the I can't determine the truth. Let's just say my family wasn't to kind towards my entire being. I'm not sure that conforming to society's ideals, brings any form of happiness whatsoever. Acceptance of one's self and of one's insignificance bring a far greater sense of contentment, than forever striving to meet the very shallow, often money driven achievement milestones perpetrated by the media. Every day I wake up because I know thats another day I could make myself better, to change something, to change someone.When i think that I’m not good enough, i just tell to myself” You're special, theres no one like you. You’re happy, because you have a home to sleep in. You have food to eat, water to drink, everything you need, that somebody else may not have.That's why you need to help to give not just to receive. The problem is if you are a thinking person it doesn't take long until you experience fully how different ideals and different ideas you have come across (automatic thoughts and "active" thoughts) are creating the contradictions that is actually your being, which pulls you away from the "sky is the limit" altruism you see here. The ones who made this clip might actually know there's so much more to say about this (but it's just so much credibility in staying beside the ones proclaiming the king has the most beautiful clothes ever seen. Read Jordan Peterson for a more complex analysis on the subject matter.
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